Are You Being a Chameleon?

Have you ever found yourself shrinking to fit in? Saying yes when you really wanted to say no? Laughing along when something didn’t sit right? Or staying silent because speaking your truth might ruffle feathers?

It’s something I’ve been reflecting on a lot lately—the ways we unconsciously shape-shift to meet expectations. It’s like being a chameleon. Chameleons change their color to blend in with their surroundings for protection and survival. And while that makes perfect sense in the animal world, for us as humans, constantly changing ourselves to “fit in” can come at a real cost.

We might start drinking, eating, or behaving in ways that don’t reflect our true values because it feels easier than being the odd one out. We might stay in jobs, relationships, or routines that are no longer aligned, simply because they feel safe. We might hold our tongues when something matters deeply, out of fear of conflict or rejection.

And little by little, we lose touch with ourselves. We forget our original color—the one that reflects our truth, our desires, our dreams. The one that feels most like home.

So what do we do when we realize we’ve been in chameleon mode for too long?

We come back to ourselves.

One of the most powerful and accessible tools I know for this is journaling. You don’t need a fancy notebook or the perfect words. Just find a quiet place, breathe deeply, and ask yourself:

✨ What do I really want?
✨ Who do I want to be—outside of anyone else’s opinion?
✨ Where am I staying small to make others more comfortable?
✨ What dreams or goals have I pushed aside for too long?
✨ Where am I not speaking my truth?

Let yourself write freely. Don’t filter or edit—just let the answers come through. And when you’re done, read what you wrote out loud to yourself. Morning and night. Let those words anchor you in your own wisdom.

Because you don’t need to keep blending in. You don’t need to shrink or twist yourself to fit into spaces that weren’t built for you. You’re allowed to be fully seen, fully expressed, fully you.

So—what’s your true color?

And how does it feel to let that color shine again?