No More Maybes: The Social Side of Restore & Replenish

Let’s talk about something that’s often overlooked in healing: your social energy.

Who and what you surround yourself with matters—more than we often realize. The people in your life can either restore you… or drain you. And if you're ready to replenish your energy, your nervous system, and your overall well-being, it’s time to take a good, honest look at your social life.

Step One: Take Inventory

Grab your journal and make a list of every person you interact with regularly. Think broad—family, housemates, friends, co-workers, text threads, social groups (in-person or virtual), even that neighbor you always end up talking to.

Now, go down the list and rate each one from 0 to 10:

• A 10 means the interaction fills you up—you leave feeling nourished, grounded, energized.

• A 0 means the interaction depletes you—you feel drained, frustrated, anxious, or resentful.

Don't overthink it. Just go with your first instinct. This is about how you feel after contact—not how much you love or care about them.

Step Two: Find the Drainers

Circle everyone who scored a 5 or below. These are your energy drains.

From here, there are two paths:

1. If you can say no to them, start practicing that. Gently. Firmly. Without guilt.

2. If you can’t say no—maybe it’s someone you live with or a close family member—get your energetic boundaries in place.

Before any interaction, say to yourself:

“I am in my energy. They are in theirs. Their energy is not allowed in my space.”

Visualize your energy bubble. Strengthen it before texts, calls, or visits.

Step Three: Check the Emotional Hooks

If saying no to someone feels impossible or guilt-inducing, pause and reflect:

• Is there an old emotional cord here?

• Am I getting something from this dynamic that I’m not giving myself?

• Am I stuck in struggle mode or victim energy?

It’s okay to admit it. This is not about shame—it’s about truth and curiosity. Use tools like Ho’oponopono or tappingto work through what comes up. Sometimes, just shifting your energy makes the dynamic less draining—even if nothing changes on the outside.

Step Four: Practice the “Holy Hell Yes” Rule

Here’s your new social guideline:
If it’s not a Holy Hell Yes, it’s a No.

This applies to everything:
🌀 Social invites
🌀 Group commitments
🌀 Random requests
🌀 Even casual check-ins

If your body doesn’t light up and say “YES!”, then give yourself permission to pass. No guilt. No over-explaining. Just trust yourself.

And if people don’t like your no? That’s okay too. People may be used to getting a version of you that put their comfort above your own. When that changes, they might get uncomfortable. That’s not your responsibility. Let them feel what they need to feel—and stay true to your boundaries.

You can still love people and say no.
You can send prayers, light, and well wishes—and protect your peace.

This is how we replenish.
By reclaiming our time.
By protecting our energy.
By remembering that it’s safe to only say yes when it feels like a Holy Hell Yes.

You already know what those yeses feel like. You don’t have to settle for anything less.

With love,
Jen 💛