Resistance Isn’t the Problem. It’s the Map.

If you’re like most of the people I work with, there’s something in your life you really want to change.

Maybe it’s a habit, a health pattern, a relationship, or a dream you haven’t fully said out loud yet. You want the change… but every time you move toward it, resistance shows up.

You feel tired. You procrastinate. You suddenly need to clean your whole kitchen before doing the thing. Your chest tightens, your inner critic gets loud, or you convince yourself it’s not the right time.

Here’s what I want you to know:
That resistance doesn’t mean you’re doing it wrong.
It usually means you’re getting close to something important.

In The FLOURISH Way™, we start by Unwinding and Unlearning—because most of what blocks us from growing isn’t about capability. It’s about protection.
Somewhere deep down, your system learned that change isn’t safe. That visibility might lead to judgment. That success could mean separation. That rest is laziness. That being heard is dangerous.

So your body resists. It’s not sabotaging you—it’s trying to keep you safe with outdated instructions.

But here’s where it gets beautiful:
When resistance shows up, it gives you a direct line to the old belief that’s ready to be released.
It’s not a wall—it’s a doorway.

This week, when resistance comes up, try this:

1. Pause. Don’t rush to fix it or push past it.

2. Feel where it lives in your body—tight chest? heavy gut? foggy head?

3. Ask: “What are you afraid will happen if I move forward?”

4. Then ask: “Is that still true?”

Let yourself be curious. Let the old story come to the surface. And gently remind yourself:
I am safe to change.
I am allowed to grow.
This resistance is showing me where my healing lives.

The goal isn’t to eliminate resistance.
It’s to listen to it so well that it no longer needs to shout.

You’ve got this.